It can be a pretty humbling place to be to realize.. you need a little help. Sometimes we try to make it all happen on our own, struggling in our minds, trying to figure things out, but ending up going around in circles.
Maybe sometimes we need an outside to nudge us. Give us a little 'food for thought'. Someone who maybe sees things in a slightly different way. Who knows a little more about what we're trying to achieve.
Hey there! My name's Maria. I'm the creator of The Box Project. Following the tragic loss of a dear one when I was 20, I found myself in a life coach's office trying to deal with the broken parts of me. I was fortunate enough to be led there by my mum, who also took me to my first Tony Robbins event in London, an event that has completely changed my life ever since, and one that I returned to as a volunteer later on, and that gave me some of the biggest blessings I have in my life right now.❤️
I have been studying the world of personal development since 2015. Seen some good coaches - and some reaaaaally bad ones😬. If you feel like you need a coach right now.. here's a few things I've learned to help guide you on the journey to picking the right one for you.
YOUR COACH SHOULD BE A GREAT LISTENER
A coach should be able to listen and receive you well. Understand your needs and what is going on beyond the problem or challenge you are presenting. It should feel like they 'get' you. That you have a connection with them and that they understand you.
A GREAT COACH ASKS GREAT QUESTIONS
Though- provoking questions that may feel challenging at the time. May feel like their provoking you or trying to get on your nerve. But they are simply challenging you. Challenging you to see things in a new way. A different way from how you've been doing it so far. And every time you are challenged in that way, it's uncomfortable. Don't back away from it. Stay with it - TRUST ME. And if you do, over time, you WILL break through it. And the other side, is pretty awesome.
A GREAT COACH SHOULD NOT UNLOAD THEIR LIMITING BELIEFS ON YOU.
We can all have limiting beliefs. As Tony Robbins best describes them:
"What is a belief? It’s a feeling of certainty about what something means. Beliefs create the maps that guide us toward our goals and give us the power to take action. The challenge is that most of our beliefs are generalizations about our past, based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences. Often we are unconscious about what we believe and how those beliefs affect our actions. Our limiting beliefs can cause us to miss out on the things that we want most and our empowering beliefs can drive us toward to the life we want to live"
If a coach tries to convince you that something should be done in a specific way, that you can get something in an X amount of time, that you cannot achieve some of your deepest desires, they are not for you. A coach has the power to influence you. Do you really need someone who doesn't believe in you coaching you? Choose someone who empowers you.
J.K. Rowling was 36 years old when the first Harry Potter book was published
Vera Wang entered the fashion industry at the age of 40
Colonel Sanders was 65 years old when he started Kentucky Fried Chicken
SO WHAT SHOULD YOU ASK A PROSPECTIVE COACH TO FIGURE OUT IF THEY ARE GOOD FOR YOU?
Be Prepared: Come up with the top 3 issues you want to tackle to be able to explain what you're looking from them before you talk to them.
Ask them - what areas of coaching are they mostly working with?
What kind of methods of coaching are they using?
What kind of qualifications do they have?
How long are their sessions and how much are they charging?
Finally, feel their vibe! Are you connecting with them, do they seem confident, approachable, have a healthy mindset, are kind and energetic?
Good luck in your journey and much love!